Dear Littlebird,
Welcome to the forum!!! We are so glad you decided to post. Sounds like you are going through alot!!
This may seem like a odd question, but it can be relavent.....
Have you learned about 607 yet? If you have, then you already know it is not factual and cannot be supported without JW literaure. I was able to get my husband out by having him try and prove to me 607 was factual, but I asked him to prove it to me without using any of the Societies literature. When he realized he couldn't he too wanted to know why. It was pandoras box for him as well. Remember, the 607 date is the very foundation of the organization. Without it everything else crumbles. The truth is not the truth unless it is 100% factual. After a very short time researching this date, one will soon see we were being lied to.
Anyhow...it helped me, and maybe it will help you. Here is my story and what happened and how I went about helping my husband while he was trying to "help me".
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/109978/1/Its-High-Time-I-Introduce-Myself
If you can't pull it up. its my introduction post, you can find it by clicking on my name and at the top of the page click "Topics Posted On", then click on the first one.
I hope things work out between you and your husband. I know it is a very scarey place, to love someone and be fearful of losing them because you don't believe the same way.
Hang in there.
Sincerely,
Lady Liberty